Friday, 21 June 2013

Miss Friday's Fab Fridays: What I've Learnt About Loving Others (And Myself!)

Friday, 21 June 2013


Hi everyone! How are we all this Friday evening? 
Today's topic is going to be about love, as I feel this is a pretty major theme in my life right now.

I'm not gonna lie, today's been a little bit, eh, depressing.. (I'm sure you can tell from my moody looking selfies!).
 I don't want to be one of those bloggers that gets too personal into their love life, or life in general, but basically, I had plans today that someone cancelled last minute, after me spending ages getting ready and genuinely looking forward to it. I don't know whether the reason for cancelling was an excuse or not, but either way, this seemed to put me in a mood for the rest of the day.

I did decide to go out anyway, but it wasn't until I got home that I realised I can't spend the rest of the night moping around, feeling sorry for myself. As much as today's events have risen doubts and caused me to feel sad, there is a real issue here of me feeling like I should use other people's actions towards me as a way of defining myself. Whenever there's some kind of situation going on with a guy, I always succumb to believe that if they don't reciprocate my feelings and treat me the way I know I deserve to be treated, then this deems me 'unworthy' and unlovable.

Obviously, this is my problem, and I know exactly why it happens. Well, I presume I've got it figured out. I feel like I define myself by men, or compliments, or approval or love because I don't love myself, or treat myself the way I should be treated. I rabbit on about how it's important, and how everybody should be independent and learn to like themselves before ever getting into a relationship, yet I don't act accordingly to my own beliefs. I tell myself all these things, aspire to 'walk my talk', but never really do. So things have got to change!

From now on I'm going to try my best to stop depending on others for approval and confirmation that I am a worthy, wonderful person, because I already am. I even cringe as I write this because it sounds so conceited for me to say it, but yes, I love and respect myself. Maybe not completely  maybe not yet, but eventually, I will. I will learn to. The only person I'll ever need in my life is myself, and hey, if I find love, that's great. But genuine love for myself, first, is the most important thing, and always will be.

So, I'm going to stop sulking, stop wishing things were different, stop endlessly seeking for reassurance/affection, and just enjoy being single! If you're feeling the same lately and begin to question your worth whenever you're single or a stupid boy screws you over, then I suggest you do the same. Spend some time with yourself, alone, do what you want to do and do what you love. Instead of putting your heart and energy into someone who doesn't deserve it, invest those things in yourself. It will be worth it, I promise!

Or, think about everything else you're grateful to have in your life right now - as I'm about to do!


Half price Oreo ice cream, plus a 50p coupon, so I got it for £1.50. Call me stingy but that is a pretty sweet deal, and I will be devouring it tonight! Getting silly drunk at a house party this Wednesday - but I met some awesome people and had a great time, so all in all, good night My wardrobe - I do bang on about how I always need more clothes, and hate the ones I own, but after having a good look today, I do have some pretty decent things. I just need to stop saving the nice things for special occasions! Warm summer nights The lovely response I had to my 'Embracing The Beauty That Is You' post - you guys really seemed to like it, so thank you! Enjoying the perks of singledom - doing what I want, when I want,  and no drama Bright pink lipstick. I can''t stop wearing this shade! Fake tan almost fooling people into thinking I have tanned naturally (I wish!) Smoothies. I tried one from Cafe Nero today, Raspberry, Orange, and Green Tea. So delicious Getting this REAL silver ring from Debenhams, for £6!! I love summer sales Lilac nail polish. Absolutely loving this colour for nails this season

Hope you've all had a fantastic week, and have an even better weekend - thanks for stopping by!



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2 comments:

  1. You look fabulous sweetie, love your nail's color too... Hope you're doing lovely my dearie Emily!

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    Tanya

    Wishing you an amazing weekend:) kisses!

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    1. Hi Tanya, so sorry for the late reply!

      Thank you so much lovely, I'm doing good thank you - hope you're doing well too :-)

      Hope you're having a nice weekend!

      Emily x

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