Wednesday, 28 August 2013

Relinquishing The Need To Control Your Life: Let Go & Be Happy!

Wednesday, 28 August 2013

"You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you." - Brian Tracy 

Trying to control everything in your life, at once, is bloody draining. I know this because, you guessed it, I've been there. I am there!

As of right now, I'm currently wrapped up in my duvet with an array of magazines, notebooks, and laptop on my bed with a rising number of empty glasses to the left on my bedside table. I've been sick with tonsillitis since around Sunday now, and not being able to do anything but lie in bed feeling sorry for myself has been driving me crazy.

I wouldn't even say I'm one of those people with a hectic schedule. I don't have a job, at least not yet, but in my mind, I still have a million things to do. I guess you could say I'm one of those people that actually creates things for themselves to do, and that can be seen as either good or bad. Or, both.

The plus side to this productivity-obsessed little workaholic inside me (that I never even knew really existed until I one day, got off my ass and stopped being lazy) is that it gets things done. At least normally. It's the little nagging voice in my brain telling me that I need to do this and that, keeps me on top of my schedule (schedule for what exactly?) I hear you say - I'm getting to that, hang on! And, generally, is the driving force inside me that gives me bursts of ambition and motivation when I need it the most, throwing me into creative tasks and overflowing with brilliant ideas.

I guess what I'm really referring to with this, in particular, is my blog. My blog, since around February (which was when it was born, I think) has been the main thing in my life giving me purpose for several months. It's been hard work, being the owner of it and all. I'm the one in charge of whether a new post goes out that day or not, I do the work for those posts, I also laboured and lumbered over the design for a good while, not to mention the social networking aspect of it all and trying to get it out there. You can't exactly afford to be laid-back with a blog, of any kind. If you want to be successful, you have to be consistent.

So, what's the downside to all this then? Having a blog, despite it's ongoing, perhaps sometimes minor, difficulties seems to have brought great meaning to my life, and has enforced this drive and addiction to productivity within me. In a way, you're right (who exactly I'm addressing when I say this, I don't know.). Non the less, you're right.

But there are many setbacks to this 'need' for control, over-ambition, and constant busyness. For example, at this moment, I still don't have a set schedule for my blog. At first, when I really got going with it, I literally forced myself to blog everyday, excluding weekends. Whilst this pressure and demand I placed on myself was stressful, it got stuff done. A new post, most of the time, came out on the day I intended it to - hell, at one point, I was scheduling posts for the day or week ahead! (Talk about organised).

Then things kind of changed. Somewhere between trying to find the time to study and revise during my exam period and generally feeling a bit overwhelmed with the workload inclusive of my blog, I lost my motivation a bit. I mean, hell, I don't exactly regret it now. If I had still tried to post as frequently as I did during that crucial time of my education, then I may not have got the good grades I worked my damn ass off to receive. And who knows what that added stress would have done to me?

But, I have to admit, things haven't really been the same since. Okay yeah, it's the summer and I've been relaxing for as much of it as I can, but the idea of actually needing to update my blog, along with many other things, and the feeling that I'm not doing enough, can be really debilitating.

And this is where the need for control, over any and every circumstance in your life, gets overbearing. Not only do I get that urgency feeling over my blog or just my college work alone anymore, that feeling has also poured over into my personal life. Even over the most simplest and mundane things that lack any real importance in my daily activities.

This week, I've been stressing out because I have two possible job opportunities coming up over the next two weeks. In other words, I need to be available, and I need to deliver. I already have some tasks to care of as it is, places to be, things to do. And the onset of my illness has thrown me off-guard completely - it's messed up my system and how I've planned my life to be for the next fortnight.

And then, that's where the worry sets in - there's nothing I can do about it. I just have to wait 'til I get better. But, god, for whatever reason, that scares me!

Now, after looking at the bigger picture, I can obviously see that it's a lack of control, over almost anything, that I find most unpleasant to deal with. When I have no control over something, my whole body goes into panic mode. When you're so used to being in control of 99.9% of things within your life, and that 1% comes along to show you who's really boss, it can really mess with your overall happiness.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the whole point of this post. This need for control in our daily modern lives is ruining our chances of happiness. Now, I'm not saying don't take responsibility for anything any more. I'm not saying go live with the hippies, gamble all of your life savings on the chance of winning the lottery, and leave everything up to fate. Because that's not how it works.

I actually believe that we are in charge of most things in our life, especially our decisions. If we want something, we just have to go and get it, or earn it. This is even more true so for our moods. I've been a firm believer, for a while, that we are in control of our own happiness. We can change our mindsets for the better.

But, seeing as we are so responsible for our own happiness and life-fulfilment, this is why we need to take charge and actually relinquish control from time to time. Our control of others' emotional states, outcomes of experiences that are completely out of our reach, the way next week/month/year must go in terms of how we want it to go, or feel it should.

Why should you, from time-to-time, give up control over certain aspects of your life? Because when are we so focussed and determined to control every damn thing we can think of, we are...

A) Firstly, taking away the ability to genuinely feel content with our lives and ourselves. When we're not living up to our own expectations and doing the things we think we 'need' 'must' 'ought' 'should' do, we become critics and feel dissatisfied with ourselves as people.
B) When we fail to produce desired outcome/experience of said situation or event, we no doubt set ourselves up for a downfall and disappointment. Seems obvious but it's true, and something we (me included) often ignore!

So, the basic summary is this - by all means, take charge of your own life. Don't sit around always waiting for things to happen when you know damn well what you want and are ready to go after it. But, occasionally, just remind yourself that it can't and won't hurt to reel in your inner 'control freak' sometimes. Let go of those things you know you can't influence, and let life, and time, work it's magic.

Relinquishing this need to control, I'm sure, will be a liberating process, and will provide us all with a new sense of freedom. The freedom of sometimes not knowing what is going to happen, but being absolutely fine with that.

The best things that tend to happen are the ones we have no control over anyway. Or never saw coming!

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Friday, 23 August 2013

Miss Friday's Fab Fridays: Things That Made My Crappy Week Good

Friday, 23 August 2013
Hi guys!

Yes, as you can tell from the title of this post, this week's gratitude list is going to be a hard one. As much as I've tried to be positive this week, I can't deny I've had more than enough grumpy moments, due to being ill and stuck in bed (boo hoo).

However, no matter how ungrateful I feel right now, I'm making myself do this post anyway, and list the things that have made me happy. Besides, I guess the best time to do these things is when you least feel like it!

The fact that it's Friday. Thank god!  My hair finally getting quite long.. and the ombre's looking pretty nice too  Being able to lounge around in cute pyjamas all day. Being sick does have it's perks, after all  Spending the majority of my time snuggled up in bed with a mountain of blankets and cushions  My Big Bang Theory dvd boxset - keeping me occupied and making me laugh when I feel like rubbish  Fruit smoothies to help relieve my sore throat. I was recommended these by my doctor and in no way am I complaining - they are so good!  My neighbours getting me a card and champagne truffles for doing well in my results. They are too sweet!  Friends re-runs  The possibility that I might be well enough for Creamfields tomorrow. Fingers crossed!  Getting some Sociology work done, despite feeling ill  My family taking care of me throughout the week This nice little reminder 

Hope you all have an amazing Friday & weekend. And that your week was better than mine! Haha.

Thanks for stopping by x

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Wednesday, 21 August 2013

Wednesday Wishlist!

Wednesday, 21 August 2013

Hi all!

How's everyone's week going? Unfortunately, I'm still in bed with tonsillitis, so trying to find the time to blog, never-mind other things, has been a challenge! I've been too drained to do any outfit posts, beauty reviews, or tutorials like I had intended to this week, but then I remembered something I hadn't done in a while.. a Wednesday Wishlist! 

I remember I used to do these weekly, and somehow they've seemed to fizz out from my usual content. But, seeing as they're the easiest thing to do right now whilst I'm pretty much bed-bound, I figured why not? It's something, after all!

Splurge: RWDZ Alexx Studded Shorts £80
Saver: H&M Knitted Jumper £15

I have to admit, whenever I now hear any mention of the word 'twerk' all I can think of is Miley Cyrus in that awful 'We Can't Stop' video and silently cringe to myself. This top, therefore, is a guilty pleasure, but the floral print is just too pretty to not love it. I was pleasantly surprised when I identified the price for this knitted jumper - for £15, it's not a bad price at all, and looks super comfy & gorgeous! My autumn wardrobe needs one. The shorts are extremely pricey, in contrast, but there's something about high-waist and studs that I can't resist. And any cut-out designs like this black beauty? I am head over heels!

Twerkin Roses Tank Top Shelfies | Knitted Jumper H&M | Denim Shorts | Heather Black Cut-Out Crop Top CherryCherry

Splurge: Bobbi Brown Limited Edition Navy & Nude Eye Palette £38
Saver: Nivea Caramel Cream Lip Butter £1.79

Since receiving my first expensive (Naked 2) eye palette last year, I've become someone a little bit obsessed with combining shades and shadows. The colours in this Bobbi Brown palette look incredible, and I like the idea of how you could easily switch your look from day to night,  - nude for the day, a gorgeous navy smoky eye for the night! But since I'm a beauty blogger on a budget for the meantime *sigh* I have to make do with the good ol' bargains for now - like this Nivea lip butter.  My lips are so dry lately, possibly because I'm ill, but I could definitely do with this in my life. And caramel cream? I can almost taste the deliciousness! I still have a weakness for pinks as you can see - this Mac lipstick looks stunning, and I've wanted to try an OPI nail polish for ages. I'd just still feel a little guilty for spending £12 on any kind of nail polish!

Nivea Caramel Cream Lip Butter Chemistdirect | MAC Flamingo Lipstick Lustre Ebay | OPI Couture De Minnie 'A Definite Moust-Have' ASOS | Bobbi Brown Navy & Nude Eye Palette

Splurge: AARRGHHHH Necklace £57
Saver: Floral Pastel iPhone 4 Case £7.66

We appear to have a bit of a 'Blurred Lines' theme going on here don't we? Completely unintentional, yet I kinda like it. The bright red heels together with that gorgeous white satchel - the contrasting colours are striking! Of course I would probably never wear them together, but still, I enjoy the colour co-ordination. I think Robin Thicke may have started some kind of trend.. I don't even own an iPhone, of any kind, but for some reason, I'm always eyeing up the covers. There are so many pretty ones to choose from (added bonus if they closely resemble a Cath Kidston design) and I'll be honest, they equal at least 40% of my reasoning for wanting an iPhone. This necklace, I just love it. There are no words - except argh! 

Necklace Shop Jeen | iPhone 4 Case Aldo | Lola Glitter Sole Extreme Platforms Boohoo | Large Edge Paint Satchel Topshop

Is there anything in my wishlist that's caught your eye today? Thanks for stopping by and have a wonderful one my lovelies! x

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Sunday, 18 August 2013

Miss Friday's Fab...Sundays: Highlights Of My Summer

Sunday, 18 August 2013

Afternoon, everyone! How we are all enjoying our Sunday?

Today, I realised it's been over two months since I last did a Miss Friday's Fab Fridays. This, to say the least, has shocked me! I knew it had been a while since I'd done a big gratitude list, but I'd no idea it was as far back as June, so it's safe to say this revelation has given me a much-needed kick up the backside to start doing them weekly again. 
I'm guessing this is partly because I've just had an incredibly busy summer, and have struggled to even find the time to release regular posts on a frequent basis, but my moods have definitely been all over the place the past few weeks, especially since I got back from holiday. A part of me is beginning to wonder whether these things have coincided - the fact that I haven't been making the effort to recall on good things happening in my life every week, and the occurrence of my depressive moods. It seems one hell of a coincidence! But, there's no point moping over time lost and spilled milk, so from here now I can only move forward and start again. 

There have been ups and downs, highs and lows, and even as of now, I'm lying in bed sick with what is likely tonsillitis  But, I'm determined to start the flow of positive energy once again (especially since yesterday's post was a little on the depressing side, haha) and recall on my happy moments of summer 2013, since we're already midway through August. Here we go!

(And yes, I know it's technically not a Friday, but why should I wait until next week?!)

Drinking thirst-quenching orange rum outside the pool. This was arguably one of my favourite past-times during my 2 weeks in France ;-)  Spending a week with my cousins and family, going on all sorts of outings around Southport. Including a trip to the fair (in which my 7 year-old cousin cried on a carousel, bless her)  Costa's hot chocolates and swirly raspberry cupcakes. Incredibly delicious, albeit a bit sickly. I still enjoyed it!  Getting all dressed up for nights out, and finally getting round to wearing those -not-yet-worn-out-dresses (even if my camera posing techniques are a little awkward and amateur) ♥ writing gratitude lists. I forgot how much I enjoyed this!!  Living on crepes whilst on holiday - my favourite go-to was chocolate spread with strawberries and cream. Mm mm  Nature walks with the family while we were in France - it was excruciatingly hot to walk around most of the time, but I have to say, I enjoy our little picnics  Finally loving kohl eyeliner again. I forgot how much wearing it on the waterline can really bring out your eyes  Reading the last two books of The Hunger Games trilogy whilst I was on holiday, usually on a deck chair by the pool. It was so peaceful, and despite Mockingjay having a pretty sad ending, it is an incredible story  Sun hats that make you look like you're going on a safari  trips to the 'secret park' with my best friend, which included many a picnic, whilst England had some gorgeous weather. Gonna have to make it a tradition!  Meeting lots of new people this summer, and having some amazing experiences to look back on  Bubble baths, wine glasses, and lit candles #bliss  Going out for drinks to celebrate my A-Level exam results. I got A's in both exams, so all the hard work paid off - yay!  Top buns and red lippy. Why does this look so sophisticated and classy?  Trying on expensive clothes I can't afford, like this maxi dress. So beautiful, I'll have to get it when I eventually get some cash rolling in..  Cheesy romcom chick flicks. I watched 'What A Girl Wants' yesterday and still love Amanda Bynes despite her recent crazy antics  Spontaneous, unexpected nights  Awkward, yet cute, first dates. They haven't ended in happily ever after's just yet, but I can finally tick them off my summer bucket list ;-)  Learning valuable lessons from all 'negative' experiences this year - especially ones of how I should love and put myself first!  Making a commitment to myself to remain happily single until someone fucking amazing comes around. Never settle!  Attending many job interviews, and finally being accepted onto a work placement for a hotel receptionist - wish me luck!  Getting the chance to work at Creamfields festival next weekend, and seeing all the music acts for free. Seems like a sweet deal My recently discovered website Happy Rambles - you basically email at least 5 things you are grateful for to the website everyday, and it gets stored in your very own online archive. A great way to introducing gratitude into your life, and a lovely thing to look back on when you're feeling rubbish!  Life Hack's 15 Things You Need To Give Up If You Want To Be Happy  - this list opened my eyes up to a lot. I probably do at least 10 of these, primarily complaining, self-defeating talk, resistance to change, and trying to impress others. Let's make life easier for ourselves and make a deal to quit these things while we're ahead!  The fact that I can finally go to university next year. Despite feeling a little nervous about it, I am excited - just need to decide where I want to go now! Seeing someone's face light up when you give them a present they really like (you're welcome for the watermelon earrings big bang theory marathons on weekend mornings 

I'm gonna stop myself now before I make this gratitude list any bigger, haha. I hope you're all having a nice, relaxed weekend, and have an awesome upcoming week!

See you next Friday ;-)

Question: What's been your biggest highlight of the summer? 

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Saturday, 17 August 2013

Honesty Hour: My Confessions And Insecurities

Saturday, 17 August 2013

My name is Emily Friday. This is me without make-up. I am not perfect. I set myself impossibly high standards to be, but I am not. I'm learning to be okay with that. I put too much emphasis on what others think of me. I try to give good impressions, and get pretty upset when I fail to do so. I don't have many close friends, so I sometimes get lonely. I sometimes love being alone, I sometimes hate it. I have low self-esteem. I don't like admitting that too often because I worry others will think I'm attention seeking/fishing for compliments. I can be judgemental, but it's usually unintentional. Though I have never been officially diagnosed, I think I have been through a mild depression. I sometimes have relapses when things get overwhelmingly bad. I try my best to be optimistic and positive at all times. I always try to make others happy. I love it if I can make others smile. I'm very indecisive about what I want to do in the future. Growing old scares me. I'm pretty sure I've had an eating disorder in the past. I still have a lot of insecurities towards my body. I put too much pressure on myself with looks alone. I like to believe there is good in everyone. I get hurt easily when others don't treat me well. I think this is partly because I get my hopes up, believe something great is going to happen, and get disheartened when it doesn't.  I tend to underestimate my abilities. I think the belief that I am shy, since childhood, has encouraged me to act more shy in situations than I actually am. I love writing, but don't really believe I am that good at it. I compare myself unfairly to others a lot. I've worked damn hard to get to where I am now. I don't think my blog is amazing, and wish I spent more time on it. I do seek validation from others, especially guys, but this is not intentional. I base my self-worth on compliments. I probably try to overcompensate my low confidence with clothes and make-up. I have regrets, but who doesn't? It takes me a while for me to be truly comfortable and truly myself around someone. I am quite distrusting towards people at first. I don't take love or sex lightly. I don't believe in jumping into relationships. I've only ever had one serious one. I've been in love once. I may still be. I may not be. I don't know. I am easily jealous, and very possessive. This whole post is very uncomfortable to write, haha. I miss a lot of people from my past. I tend to beat myself up over situations that I can't even control. I am quick to apologise and no longer like holding grudges. I try to forgive as much as I can. I rely on others too much for my happiness, even though I know I shouldn't. I get attached to others easily. I don't handle rejection or criticism well. I don't like sad music because I find sadness an uncomfortable emotion. It gets you thinking. I already overthink a lot. I sometimes overreact. I enjoy being single, but worry about ending up alone, like everyone else. I have body dysmorphia. I know some people may think I'm confident (if I take a lot of pictures of myself) but I do that to try and feel better about myself. I would hate for others to think I'm conceited and self-obsessed. I've been dealing with pretty bad family situations for almost 10 years. I believe this is why I hate arguing and conflict of any sort. I have my bad days.

But I am trying to change that. I am trying to change all of these things. Most of them will not be easily changed over night. It will take time, but I am willing to try. It's taken a recent depressive phase of mine to realise a lot of the above I just mentioned. To realise that I place too much importance on how others see me, and how I am so afraid for others to see the real me. And what a stupid fear that is. It's taken me this to realise that I can no longer rely on others to fill that void within myself, and make me happy. I am in charge of how I feel. External things only count for a tiny percentage of my overall happiness and contentment within myself. I am focussing on being a better person. To myself, and others.  I wrote this post to finally get rid of my fear of being vulnerable to what others think. To truly reveal myself. 

My name is Emily Friday, and I am a great person. I have my fair share of flaws and insecurities, but I'm working through them. I have a wonderful sense of humour. I am kind. I am caring. I take the time to be thankful for everything I have in my life. I am humble. I am passionate. I am ambitious. I give my heart, soul, and everything into what I do. Everyday I focus on being grateful. I work hard to achieve my goals, and I deserve to succeed. The only person I'll ever need to rely on is myself. I am a beautiful person. And I will try to believe that.

This is who I am, and I'm not going to change for anybody. The only person I will ever change for, is myself, to benefit me and me only. I challenge you to do the same. Write a post exposing your biggest insecurities, fears, and confessions. If you hesitate  you'll know you have a worry about ruining this self-image you've worked on, and how you want others to see you. If you do write one, send me the link. I'd love to read it.

Remember - never make assumptions on first impressions. There is usually so much more beneath the surface.

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Friday, 16 August 2013

Sea Blue & Beach Peach Eyes Tutorial - Using Maybelline Colour Tattoo!

Friday, 16 August 2013

Good evening stylicias!

How's everyone's week going so far? I've had a pretty busy one myself - job hunting, exam results (more on that tomorrow) but generally I'm feeling good 

Today's make-up tutorial is one for the eyes. They say that the eyes are the windows to the soul, and I think that's very true. We can smile with our eyes, and speak a million words with just one look. That's why, for me, the make-up on your eyes will be the most important feature on your face. And what I love about eye make-up is that there are so many different looks you can create, all for a different purpose/theme!

I came up with this look whilst I was on holiday, and it's not too hard to see why. I think the mixture of sunsets and blue skies had really gotten to my head - and gave me this lovely idea for a beachy looking peach and sea-coloured eyeliner/eyeshadow blend. The great thing, as well, is that this look can look good on a variety of different coloured eyes. Blues tend to look great on those with brown eyes, and peaches/golds look amazing on blue eyes. So you kind of get the best of both with this look - it's got colours to suit everyone!

What You'll Need
  • Maybelline Colour Tattoo 24hr by Eyestudio in 20-Turquoise Forever
  • A bronzer (like 17 Instant Glow Light Bronze) or any bronze, shimmery eyeshadow. I actually used a bronze shade from a H&M eyeshadow palette I got ages ago, but since it's pretty much empty I didn't bother taking a picture. Any similar bronze/peach colours will do!
  • Benefit's They're Real Mascara

Easy peasy step-by-step!

1. First thing you'll want to do is provide a base for your eye make-up - this will help anything you put over the lids set and last longer. Plus look better in general! Try a primer of any sort (doesn't necessarily have to be eye primer). 

2. Next, using the bronzer or peachy coloured eyeshadow if you have one, get a fluffy, sweeping brush and buff into the outer crease of your eyelid. Make sure you get deep into your crease - it creates lovely dimension!

3. Now here's the fun bit. Using your Colour Tattoo gel, grab a small, preferably angled brush, and dab it lightly into the pot. Begin to create a wing, starting from the inner corner of your eye, and slightly outwards and upwards to the top of your brow bone. Don't worry if you make any mistakes - get a make-up remover, or concealer, and erase any bits of the line that may have smudged.

4. The last, but not least, step. Apply a jet black, lengthening mascara, from the roots to tips of your lashes. And the bottom ones too. All done!

Overall, I'm pretty happy with the Colour Tattoo as an eyeliner, or eyeshadow. It's gel consistency makes it so easy to apply, a really rich, glossy colour, lasts for ages, yet, if it smudges, doesn't stain and be an absolute bugger to get off!

The end result
From day, to night - lasts all day, even in sweaty heat!

Tip: Adding blue to the eyes also creates the illusion of having whiter eyes. Which, as a result, makes your eyes look bigger and brighter!

Do you guys like the look? If you own Maybelline's Colour Tattoo gel, what do you think? :-) I'd love to try some of their other colours!

Have a beautiful day and thanks for stopping by xx

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Friday, 9 August 2013

Today I'm Wearing: Sweats, Sneakers & Slogan Tees

Friday, 9 August 2013

Afternoon everyone! Yesterday, I went to a job interview. No, I didn't wear this, don't panic! (Would love to imagine the faces on everyone if I did, though). I was dressed smartly all day - navy blouse, uncomfy black trousers, black pumps that give my poor feet blisters etc. So, as soon as I got home, I decided to get seriously comfy and throw on my favourite slogan tee and only pair (but very much loved pair) of sweatpants. Whilst lulling around, thinking about what kind of blog post I should do next, I had a thought. It went something along the lines of 'I bet this outfit would look pretty damn cool with loads of gold jewellery.. and high-top sneakers..' and voila. This is my creation! It's pretty different to what I would normally wear, I know. Not exactly feminine, apart from my pink shoes and striking red lips and nails, but I like it, nontheless. It feels edgy and cool. I felt pretty badass actually, haha. Now all I need is a big, chunky gold necklace!

I think, if you're going to go for something more casual and laid-back with your main outfit, you must accessorise. I mean, imagine this outfit with no jewellery at all. It'd be boring! The studded rings and bracelet give it that serious umph, and whenever my outfit is also a little more on the basic side, I like to go all out with dramatic make-up. The red lips and red nails go perfectly together, and the colour red symbolises so many things in itself - danger, love, passion. Besides, when your make-up makes it for it (that was a bit of a mouthful wasn't it?) it means you can also be lazy and laid-back with your hair. I like how my top bun isn't exactly all neat either - messy hair is sexy hair!

'Blog off' Tee | Sweatpants LA Gear | High-Top Sneakers Matalan | All rings Primark | Bracelet ASOS

What do you guys think of the outfit? What accessory can you absolutely NOT go without, for any outfit? For me it would be rings. I need at least one!

Have a fantastic weekend guys - thanks for dropping by! :-)

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Tuesday, 6 August 2013

Relaxed Waves: Hair Tutorial

Tuesday, 6 August 2013

Hello my beauties!

How are we all doing this afternoon?

I think I've at long last settled back into England and my own house, am finally getting round to ticking those things off my to-do list, and finding the spare time to blog frequently again.

Luckily for me, I haven't had to scramble in a rush for new post ideas - sometimes I take photos from ages ago for future outfit posts/make-up/hair tutorials, and save them for later. So technically, the photos from this post are from a while ago - but I'm glad I took them at the time!

Some days, I'll want to do all sorts of things with my hair. Other days, in fact most days, all I can be bothered to do is stick it up in a ponytail. One day, I forced myself to try something different. Rather than the usual go-to hairstyle of spiral curls, I searched the internet for a different technique of curling your hair. Something more relaxed and laid-back - like these loose waves!

It was so easy to achieve, and I loved the end result. Not quite straight, not quite curly, just nicely in between. Not everyone will even need to use a curling iron to get this kind of wave (lucky you with your natural waves) but for me, my hair's naturally a clump of tight curls. So this is ideal for me!



The first thing you'll want to do is work your hair into about four sections. I prefer to begin from the front to back, and I find using a barrel with a width of about an inch and a half works best.


Next, wind your hair around the curling iron. But only up to about halfway - the idea is loose, long curls, so avoid curling anywhere near your roots! Hold for about 20-30 seconds, depending on your hair's resistance to curl. (Don't clump down the iron over your hair either - just gently wrap it around and hold in place.)


When you release the hair from the iron, slowly unwind it from the tip, and allow it to fall by itself. Feel free to twirl with your fingers if you want a tighter wave.


This step is crucial - get a hair grip/bobby pin (whatever you want to call it) and begin to twist the hair strand upwards that you just curled. When you get to about halfway, stop, and secure the grip in place, so the strand is wrapped into one little twirl.


You'll want to proceed with this step all the way though until you have finished curling all your hair. Curl a strand, secure it. Once you're done, begin to remove all the hair grips, allowing the hair to fall down slowly.


The end result should leave with you beautiful, loose waves. To get a tighter wave, you can curl the length of your strands all the way to the roots, and leave the grips in longer. The grip trick works really well to keep your curls lasting longer!

All done!

Products I recommend:

Herbal Essences Tousle Me Softly Finishing Touch Cream 

Any flexible hold hairspray

What do you all think of the waves? Hope you found this tutorial helpful! x

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Sunday, 4 August 2013

What I Wore On Holiday

Sunday, 4 August 2013
I'll be honest, packing for a holiday is probably one of my least favourite things to do. Shopping for holidays? Great! Love it! But  having to decide what I want to bring with me versus what I actually need, is a recipe for a disastrous, last minute stress-filled night. This year, because I usually end up bringing way much more with me than I actually need or intend to wear, I decided I would pack light. This did work well in some ways, and some ways it didn't. I found that my suitcase was lighter, obviously, and I could actually manage to lift it up myself without tumbling over. It was definitely easier packing everything back in my suitcase for the way home, and there was something so nice and refreshing about having a simple summer wardrobe of a few things you love for the two weeks you're away. What I didn't love about it? I actually found that I was running out of stuff to wear. It sounds crazy, and I didn't exactly wear everything I brought with me, but I ended up wearing only the things I really like more than once. The other stuff, the meh pile as I like to call it, barely got touched.

So, next time, I plan on saving up enough money to actually buy myself a decent haul of summer holiday outfits, so I can wear something new everyday, and something I actually feel great in! I only got snapshots of a few of my outfits, mind, as some days I just completely forgot, but here we are. These are the ones I liked the most anyway!

Bikini top George at Asda | High-waisted shorts Primark

 Tassles Bikini Top F+F | Chiffon Playsuit Missguided
 Leopard Maxi Dress Retro

Stripe Maxi Dress Primark

So firstly, before I talk about these few outfit choices, let me apologise for the poor quality of these photos, and the fact I couldn't fit my feet in. I don't have a tripod or anything like that, so I was literally using the top of a chest of drawers trying to take this. On an uneven barnhouse floor. Forgive me!

Anyway, because France was ridiculously hot 99.9% of the time I was there, I found I often just wore bikini's around the house. Until I got in the pool, I'd usually just pair whatever random bikini top I like with a pair of high waist denim shorts, as you can see, and some cute gladiator sandals. Whenever I'm on holiday, I also prefer to wear things that are light and comfortable (because the least thing you want to be wearing is something unbearably annoying to trench around in, in 30 degrees heat) so I find maxi dresses are my favourite thing to wear during this time of year, especially abroad in a hot country. I only have two, unfortunately, but next year I plan to invest in many more. My last favourite item I received as a gift just before I went is the beautiful mint green chiffon playsuit. I saw it on the website and instantly fell in love, it's the perfect piece to wear on it's own or over a bikini. I had to wear mine over a bikini, however, since I got the size 10 and it actually ended up a little too big.. which reminds me, must get boob tape!

You can probably immediately tell from these photos that I am also very laid-back when it comes to hair and make-up while I'm on holiday. It's partly lazyness, but I just believe that if you're on holiday, it shouldn't really matter if you look all dolled up everyday. You're there to relax, after all, so why would I want to get all hot and bothered trying to do my hair all pretty. I could barely be bothered with make-up for these photos! But, since my hair is very much uncontrollable due to it's frizz and even worse with the humidity, I made sure to apply an intensive deep conditioning mask called 'Frizzi' from Umberto Giannini every time I washed my hair, and lathered it with Argon Oil hair serum during the day to keep it soft and shiny. Pool water definitely did not help my skin nor my hair!

Do you prefer keeping it easy and minimal with your outfits on holiday? I'll make the exception of dressing up if it's an outing to a night market or meal!

Thanks for reading guys! xx

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Thursday, 1 August 2013

I'm Home!

Thursday, 1 August 2013

Bonjour stylicias!

Yes, it's me, here I am, I'm finally back! For those of you who don't know, I've been on holiday for the past two weeks, only getting back home Sunday. I realise I've slacked off a bit, seeing as I could have been writing new posts since I've been back home, but the truth is, my head's kinda been all over the place. I won't go into details of my personal life, but aside from that, feeling lazy and tired from all the travelling, and just being busy in general, I've struggled to just get my head down and get something new out!

But today I've pushed myself to do it. Mainly because:

1. I miss blogging, the community, you guys who read what I have to say.
2. I figured it can only improve my mood for me to have something to focus on.
3. I really wanna get back into things, and start taking this seriously again. It's going to be hard because I have even limited time than I did before (I'll be studying during these summer holidays) but I'm determined to create some kind of schedule that works for me!


Let's crack on with what I've been up to the past fortnight!

Every summer, me and my family make it almost like a tradition to travel to the south of France for a two-week holiday. This hasn't been the case for every year (some holidays have involved caravan parks - we're not made of money!) but for the most part, this is where we go. The villa we went to this year was one I'd actually been to when I was only about 11 years old - told you we'd been going a while! So, it was quite a strange, but nice experience.

The villa resides in a pretty, rural area of France - the building is actually a converted barnhouse, so still contains many of the old stone walls! I have to admit, I'm not much of a countryside girl - I'd rather be in the city, with the shops, modern built houses, and cleanliness. Here it's quite the opposite - little villages containing the occasional weekly market and cafe's, very much old fashioned houses, and floors, walls, and furniture crawling with creepy insects!

After spending much of my time here over the years, however, a part of me has grown to love it. Sure, the sickly heat can make it a bit unbearable at times along with everything else (thank god for air conditioning in the car), but, saying that, the country is growing on me. And by that I don't just mean France - I mean the countryside in general!

The nearest village/town closest to us, is Eymet, and is packed full of little bars, restaurants, and bakery's - you'll never be short of a croissant around here! Right in the centre of the attractions is this gorgeous fountain, and every Tuesday night, the area will be lit up with curtains, stalls, and clothes racks for the wonderful night markets. It's very much a tourist friendly place, and there is so much diversity here - as well as Cafe De Paris,  there's also Kismet - a nice little English cafe where the majority of us will invade!

We were staying in a small area nearby named Dordogne (or something along those lines) and one of my favourite things about the house was, of course, the pool! As well as a stunning view to look at over the hedges and terrace, it was wonderful having our own private pool to dive into after sunbathing on the deck chairs. The quiet, secluded atmosphere of this place is one of the reasons I've grown to love the idea of a hidden home in the country - besides for some of our neighbours nearby singing aloud every morning - and quite badly too!

Despite living in a very much secluded, quiet area, you're not too far a distance away from some great attractions and activities. If you can tolerate the hour car journey down to Calais (hey, I had to travel a total of 20 hours in the car just to get to the villa, I'm sure you can handle it) then I absolutely recommend a trip on the canoes. The river stretches for miles and miles, and I can assure you, you will witness some incredible views along the way. And don't worry - a van comes to pick you up after you're done!

My diet changes once I'm in France, but trust me - I wasn't complaining. Okay that's a lie, maybe I did once or twice because I ate so much of the same things I made myself want to give up food for life, but hell did I enjoy it! As well as croissants and pain au chocolats, of course, one of my other favourite appetisers is crepes. I know, they do them in England too, but they're just not he same. They're not a thing here in England. But in France, it's as if they worship them. I had them at the hotel we stayed at along the way which included free breakfast slumped with nutella, we bought some to have whilst we were in the villa, drizzled in maple syrup, and then we found this creperie in Eymet. This one has hot choclate sauce, ice cream, flaked almonds, and whipped cream on. It was delicious.

Ah, probably my favourite place we ventured to whilst I was here. The lovely town of Bergerac! Just look at the flower petal decorations dangling from building to building - so many different colours, and so beautiful. I only wish they did this kind of stuff in my home town Southport! 
But, I loved Bergerac for many other reasons. Firstly, the shops - they had a Sephora, which was way too expensive for me to afford, and plenty of nice, cheap clothes shops! I actually got a bag while I was here too, for only 12 euros. I'll have to get a picture of it for my next post.
And, besides the wonderful clothes shops, they also had gazillions of even better restaurants - and ice cream shops! I got a nutella one, and it was perfect. (Yes, I am obsessed with nutella, or anything chocolate).

This was a view from outside our house at about 10 o'clock I think. The skies and sunsets are so beautiful.
And, if you're interested by a bit of medieval history, you need to pay a visit to one of these castles. I'm not all that interested, I'll be honest, but even I can't deny how amazing it was!

In my next post, which will either come tomorrow or Saturday, I'm gonna basically document some favourite outfits of mine I wore on holiday. Put a bit of a fashion twist on things again ;-)

I'm not sure I'm a total convert of the countryside yet.. it may take a lot more convincing. But as a holiday home every summer? Count me in. Either way, I'm still considering Paris!

Have you been on holiday anywhere this year? Which do you prefer - the country or city?

Hope you all have an amazing day!

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