"Forgiveness helps you recover the
strength you need to focus on
what you want. Remember, you
can only attract what you
believe you deserve."
Hey guys - happy new year!
As we begin 2013 - sorry, 2014 (that's gonna take some getting used to!) I figured it was time to write a 'deep' blog post. It's been a while since I last did one, and usually that's because it normally takes some inspiration to kick my butt into writing something worth reading that resonates with my life, myself, and probably other people, too. But luckily, tonight, I've had another epiphany moment, and now my creative juices are overflowing!
I do love it when that happens.
I'm also loving this typeface as compared to my usual Georgia font. What do you think?
Woah, focus Emily. Back on topic.
Today's post is about a concept I've briefly heard mentioned in conversations/films/articles before, but never really looked into, or gave a second thought. I'm sure you're aware of it too, but maybe you've never given it the amount of attention it deserves either. I'm talking about the law of attraction - the idea that your thoughts, ideas, and beliefs, will essentially come back to you.
For example, if you're a pessimistic type of person, always believing bad things are going to happen to you, always feeling like a victim, never trusting others, always judging yourself and others so harshly, you will attract that exact negative energy back into your life.
The idea is so simple, and in a way, very valid - but I think it so often gets overlooked. I know, for one, that I've probably been overlooking it my entire life up until now.
We all expect good things to happen to us/for us, and get short-tempered when we don't exactly get our way. We put up with shit, from others and/or circumstances, assume the worst in people, hold self-limiting beliefs, and then wonder why nothing good ever comes into our life. Why we never feel happy or content.
The quote at the top of this post describes it perfectly. We are only ever going to attract what we think we deserve.
If you're constantly berating yourself, believing you're never good enough, believe there's something inherently wrong with you, or are still carrying emotional baggage or mistakes around with you from the past - well, you're never going to move forward. You are never going to attract that positive, happy, uplifting energy into your life.
I have so many beliefs about myself that have been holding me back. When I meet new people, I magnetize my flaws, even stuff from my past, that is no longer relevant, and within a matter of seconds, I will have likely become closed-off, reserved, unfriendly. I'll probably believe that these strangers are no good and untrustworthy, possibly because I've been hurt in the past.
My advice, to anybody reading this and to myself, is to stop beating yourself up over things that no longer serve you. If it's causing you to feel and exude negative energy, identify those thoughts going through your mind - what are they saying? What are the underlying core beliefs, about yourself or the situation at hand? Once you've figured that out, let it go -leave it in the past where it belongs, because our beliefs or past mistakes or wrongdoings by other people do not define us. It might sound silly but literally visualise yourself turning around and walking away from that self-defeating belief/thought. We can choose to identify ourselves in positive new ways and thus attract positive energy into our lives - by choosing to believe that we deserve goodness and are good people. And also allowing yourself to believe others have good intentions, too!
The underlying solution then here, I guess, is forgiveness. Forgive yourself, forgive others, whatever it takes - just rid yourself of that negative energy. And, I'm sure, things will start looking up!
What's one belief you hold about yourself that you want to change/defeat?
Here's to a happier, more positive new year :-)